I think I’m mentally unsound. My mum keeps shoving things to me, and I don’t want them.?
June 24, 2011 by admin
Filed under chemistry online
I don’t know why, but I get easily irritated by things my mom says.
Like for example, she’s going through some of my old school books that I do not need anymore for future use, and she says in a nonchalant way which irks me – ‘[Insert Book Name], what an interesting book, it’s for your use’. I’m like – ‘I don’t take Geography anymore’ – and she goes like ‘but this book is new, and I believe it’s interesting.’ I’m like – ‘I don’t take Geography, and I have much more things to do like Chemistry and Biology – where do I find the time?’ – and she’ll keep prodding and asking me to keep it for future usage – I’m like – I DON’T WANT IT – and she tries to put it on my table. I don’t have an interest in Geography and she’s shoving it to me. So, when I fling it across the table, she’s like pissed and takes the cane and whacks me – yes and I’m 14, and she only canes me.
Another time would be when she gave me this Math assessment book from the books from my cousin that I don’t want. It was an old syllabus book though the topics have changed – I told her I didn’t want it, plus, I had many sorts of books that were recommended by the teacher, and there were quite alot, moreover, they are GCSE-based, which meant that the content would be more suitable for studying compared to some book with some old syllabus – although I do admit that some of the topics are the same. She just doesn’t get it. And I try to reason it to her, but she refuses to listen, and says that ‘I’ve let down a book by not reading it’ and that many other people in third-world countries would fight over the book.
It just pisses me off and I feel like I can’t deliver the message across.
Yes, and I took an ADHD test online, and I was close to the mark where they diagnose you of ADHD – I had a 66/70 – and 70′s the mark that they send you for medical treatment. I’m like going mad, because there are so many other things, that I try to tell them, but they don’t seem to bother.
Just smile, say “thanks Mum”, take the book and put it on a bookshelf in your room.
Some battles are just not worth fighting.
Your Mum is breaking the law using a cane on a child in the UK – if you want to ask for help, speak to your school nurse or a teacher about this.
As for ADHD – stress mimics ADHD and you sould like you have got a lot of stress in your life – so speak to your school nurse.
Everyone is always looking for some magic pill to fix their problems. If you see a shrink, they will say you are depressed and give you anti depressants and therapy. Thats their job! See a medical doctor, they will say you have ADD or a chemical imbalance, and will prescribe ridlin or some other drug and re-evaluate you in a few months. Doctors get paid for treating you, curing you would not make them any richer. See your pastor, he will recommend getting more involved with the church and finding a closer relationship with God.
Fix your own problems. Eat better, avoid caffeine and excessive alcohol. Get out more, go to the zoo, hiking, swimming. Avoid the news and depressing movies. Get a hobby. Plant a garden. Procrastination is becoming an epidemic, and pills dont fix it. You have to fix it yourself.
I think you are stressed and your mum is a bit weird. That’s my honest opinion. Like the person above says, smile, say thanks, then put it away in your room.
She shouldn’t be caning you. Adults shouldn’t hit children. Ever. (Or hit other adults for that matter)
Part of the problem with being your age is that you are still partly in that child’s mindset of thinking that your parent is perfect and “the boss”, with only your best interests at heart, and is always right. Then when there is a problem, you always FEEL you are the one with the problem and there must be something wrong with you, even if you THINK differently.
I believe in the beginning your mother honestly thought the books would helpful Then you adamantly refused to take them, which possibley hurt her feelings when she was only trying to help’ Then it turned into a struggle of wills and control and you both left mad. Why why in the wide world did you not just accept the books, thank her and later get rid of it or just put it on a shelf and forget about. If she asks say yes I have used the books but I don’t need them anymore . . Mothers are just people carrying an incredible load when raising children. Save the big guns for more important matters you’ll be arguing about when you’re older.